Throw your energy into Iowa!

Dear Joey,

Thank you for your support. We have been working in partnership with an organization called OneIowa - they're on the ground there and they would be the ideal people to get in touch with about how to help rally support for this important case. We're the group litigating the case, and OneIowa does all the support and organizing.

http://www.oneiowa.org/web/

One Iowa / One Iowa Education Fund
500 East Locust Street, Suite 300
Des Moines, IA 50309

Phone: 515-288-4019
Fax: 515-244-5846

Thank you!
Graciela González
Legal Assistant
Lambda Legal, Midwest Regional Office
11 East Adams, Suite 1008
Chicago, IL 60603
(t) 312.663.4413, Ext. 333
(f) 312.663.4307
ggonzalez@lambdalegal.org
http://www.lambdalegal.org

Throw your energy into Iowa!

A Puzzlement: Why Aren't the Gays Headed for IOWA?

I am going to now rip off some of Wikipedia:

Same-sex marriage in the U.S. state of Iowa was allowed for a short time from August 30 to August 31, 2007, in Polk County as a result of a ruling by Robert Hanson, a judge in the Polk County District Court, in Varnum v. Brien.
The ruling was made as a result of a suit brought against Polk County by six same-sex couples who had been denied marriage licenses. Hanson's ruling states, in part, that

Couples, such as plaintiffs, who are otherwise qualified to marry one another may not be denied licenses to marry or certificates of marriage or in any other way prevented from entering into a civil marriage... by reason of the fact that both person comprising such a couple are of the same sex.

Polk County has appealed the decision to the Iowa Supreme Court, which will hear arguments in the case on December 9, 2008.

So, my gay friends. While you are picketing the Mormon Church in New York as a result of an amendment that has already passed in California, there is an actual state Supreme Court hearing in less than a month in the state of Iowa. You know... the state that just swung hard for Barack Obama. And while this is not something that requires a vote by the people that we need to campaign for, it certainly seems like a more advantageous use of our time and effort to bring forth visibility there.

Don't let this opportunity slip through the fingers because we were too busy being dramatic about Prop 8!

A Puzzlement: Why Aren't the Gays Headed for IOWA?

Another Way of Saying It

I found this comment posted on The Village Voice website. It's an outsider's view of the protesting and it's exactly what I've been saying. The way this community is acting right now is NOT good PR for what we are trying to accomplish. I for one hope that the court does NOT overturn this. I want this to go back on the ballot and get repealed by the people directly. And I want the gay community to stop whining and yelling and refusing to talk to anyone except those who already support it.

I used to have respect for the gay community until I saw their reactions to this proposition. You didn't lose because the Mormon's financed proposition 8, you lost because 52% of voting Californians voted for it to pass.

You abused the court systems to override the voice of the people, and the people fought back. And it is somehow the Mormon's fault?

Maybe instead of whining about how you lost and trying to point fingers of blame, you should keeping working with the people to explain your cause.

Explain to them why marriage is important to you. It isn't just about the rights and you all know it. California law provides most of the rights that marriage provides through civil unions. If it were about rights, you'd be fighting to have all of the rights that married couples have, not a complete redefinition of the institution.

I'm guessing it isn't about rights, as much as it is about commitment. You want to be able to let your significant other know that you are committed to them and only them. But is this really the best approach to get this done?

Be civil. You'll get more respect from the community if you do. Otherwise you will hurt your cause with people who sit on the fence like me, because instead of looking like patient, mature, rational adults, you'll look like the little kid in the grocery store who throws a fit because his parents wouldn't let him have candy. You'll just annoy everyone.

Posted by: Dan at November 10, 2008 4:05 PM

Another Way of Saying It

Protect Marriage, Protect Children, Prohibit Divorce from Jonathan Smith

Protect Marriage, Protect Children, Prohibit Divorce from Jonathan Smith

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Protect Marriage, Protect Children, Prohibit Divorce from Jonathan Smith

Facing the Fears

I am tired of having to keep commenting on these calls for protest in response to the passage of Proposition 8. So I'm going to lay it out here and no one's gonna like it:

We dropped the ball.

To clarify that statement, I'm not sure we ever HAD the ball. Rather, we thought we did and it turned out to be in the other team's hands.

Since last Tuesday's election, there have been many protests going on, mainly in California, but throughout the nation. I am now seeing Facebook events calling for a protest on the Mormon Church in NYC.

I understand why. People are angry. They feel betrayed. They thought that in a state as progressive as California, there would be no way this would pass. They assumed that because we were electing the first black president of the United States, that the black voters would vote against discrimination. They assumed people would see past the crazies in the LDS church and vote with their consciences instead of hate propaganda.

That's why we lost.

I want to compare this to two movements. The first is the great movement that the Obama campaign inspired this year. Consider the fact that the Obama campaign took NOTHING for granted, even when it was up double digits in the polls. It relentlessly beat against the Republican machine with its message of hope and unity. And when it started to win those states from the Republicans, it fought HARDER. Compare that to the McCain campaign. The campaign that was full of hateful and deceptive speech, fueling anger amongst its supporters to try and rail them into action. They never had a chance. Why? Because the Obama campaign chose the high road. It chose to talk to PEOPLE. It chose to take the time to dispel myth and rumor and lies with patience and grace. And it never believed that it was infallible. The Obama camp knew it was right. But it still had to convince people. It had to demonstrate itself. It empowered the voters by saying "Here are the facts. Maybe this is best for you, maybe you disagree with it. You decide."

The LDS Church (one of the most prominent proponents of Prop 8) had a mix of both these campaigns. Yes, they used the lies, misleading information, scare tactics, and oh, the children! But it also relentlessly fought the way Barack Obama's campaign did. It never gave up, and when it made inroads, it continued to make more. Just like McCain thought he could win on ideology alone, so did the gay and lesbian community.

The second comparison is between this movement and the Civil Rights movement. When the African Americans engaged in the civil rights movement of the 50s and 60s, they did it through nonviolent protest. Sit-ins, boycotts, civil disobedience. And yes, the March on Washington. And it was simply about standing up and being counted as a real valued member of our society. It was about not being mistreated. It was about equality: the equality of being SEEN as no different that a white person.

Our movement has always been about anger. Maybe it's a reflex of repression, since we are able to hide who we are, unlike most other minority groups. Our argument of late has been more about "It's 2008 (or whatever), how can people be so closed minded?" as if we just EXPECT people to change their minds, than it has about trying to HELP them make a well thought, personal opinion on the matter. The movement is so quick to harshy (and wrongly) judge the African American community, as if they should know better. But I ask: How many people went to black churches and tried to make our inroads? I've heard "It doesn't matter, it wouldn't make a difference. People are set in their ways." So instead of confronting these issues head on, we'd rather run out into the streets and scream about how unfair it is. How dare you vote us down when we're not willing to come to you as PEOPLE and tell you we need your HELP.

Organizing the gay community and its supporters to make sure they all vote is not enough to defeat this. If we're going to wait until we naturally have a mind shift and gain enough friends and family to ensure our rights with no outreach effort on our part, it's going to be a day far away from now. We need to win over more people. The "independents" as it would be. Those on the fence. And then we need to win over those just on the other side of the fence. And we need to do that by LISTENING to them. They are on the fence because they have concerns. Let's take the time to address those concerns and show that we are a people of strong moral fiber that are compassionate and share their interests and fears. Let us not show them, once again, that we were angry at them and hate them for failing to see what we refuse to show them. We can reach so many people if we are willing to face our own fears of hearing why they are afraid of us.

Facing the Fears

Protesting vs. Planning: The Reaction to Prop 8

I think what's frustrating about what's going on in California right now is that it's a whole lot of people marching and yelling but there is no agenda. They're expressing their outrage but that's not going to change things. It's too late now... the measure has passed. There is nothing that protesting and marching is going to accomplish besides ring attention to the matter. But what happens when you get attention?? When I read and watch the news, what they are talking about is the gay people in CA that are protesting the passage of Prop 8. That's IT. They're not talking about what the protesters want DONE... because no one's got a plan!! So instead of getting people on their side, all they are doing is marginalizing themselves as the angry gay people in California.

I think that this is a fantastic article about what happened in CA and what to do about it:
“No on 8” – When Reactive Politics Become Losing Politics

Protesting vs. Planning: The Reaction to Prop 8

Two Problems with the Prop 8 Decision

I have two related issues with what's going on regarding this amendment.

First of all, what I think is disappointing is that the people couldn't reject this bill themselves. This would have sent a very clear message that we are on a path toward equality. Instead, this must now go to the courts to be struck down. They will either say it is unequal and thus unconstitutional, or that it is a revision and not an amendment and therefore must go through the state legislature. Either way, we sort of lose. Yes we get what we want, but we sort of get it in a roundabout way. I feel that the BEST way to beat this down is to repeal it in 2010.

Secondly, this was a very close election. And this would all be over if California required a supermajority (60%) to pass constitutional amendments. If this goes to the legislature as a revision, it will require 2/3 of the vote to pass as such.

HOWEVER I do not recommend anyone push for a required supermajority yet! If that happened and this went up for repeal in 2010, it will be that much harder to beat it.

Now, I'm not telling California how to conduct its business, but to pass an amendment taking away rights from a group with 52% of the vote hardly seems right.

Two Problems with the Prop 8 Decision

What to do about the Prop 8 mess.

Here is my opinion on how to handle this Prop 8 disaster.

Introduce a referendum that would eliminate the word "marriage" from the Constitution. Replace all instances of "marriage" with "domestic partnership". This will do one of two things:

1. It will solve the problem outright. Since the fundamental argument about marriage is that it is first a foremost a sacred religious rite, it keeps the term "marriage" in the church, and brings the all-encompassing "domestic partnership" into the socioeconomic and legal understanding of the idea.

2. It will cause the fundamentalists to stand up in outrage and refuse to allow the term "marriage" to be lessened by the term "domestic partnership". In doing so, they will ultimately prove the inherent problem: "domestic partnership" is both separate, AND unequal to "marriage". Therefore, as determined by Brown vs. Board of Ed., all couples must be allowed to marry.

The argument is also thus: If marriage is first and foremost a sacred institution, those who are married in non-religious ceremonies (gay or straight) must also not be allowed to use the term "married," nor be subject to its benefits. Inversely, any gay couple who is married by any minister of faith MUST be required to register as a married couple under the law, as their institution was religious.

Bottom line: Stop screaming at people. It's much more effective to move toward something, make THEM scream, and then follow it up with "Oh but you said..."

What to do about the Prop 8 mess.

Re-open Proposition 8 for California Petition

Re-open Proposition 8 for California Petition

Re-open Proposition 8 for California Petition